Wednesday, February 1, 2017

IWSG and Perfection

Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer - aim for a dozen new people each time.
Click HERE to get to the link where you are able to visit various other blogs.

And...to Perfection.
Growing up as the younger sister to the popular neighborhood jock and older nerdy sister to the cute and adorable mellow-and-chilled chick, I added the unnecessary burden of pursuing perfection. Not in everything I did, but when it came to school, I had to have perfect grades, high standardized test scores, and excellence. This wasn't anything my mom asked of me. Truthfully, she only ever wanted me to be happy and would talk with me to keep me sane in those moments when I didn't quite outshine others intellectually.

Over the years, I've learned to curb this pursuit of perfection with a pursuit of happiness, which is one of the reasons I love to write. But perfection is a beast with deep and tangling tentacles, difficult to uproot, and I find myself struggling with my first drafts because of it. 

What about you? How do you deal with writing your first drafts? Do you go through painstaking edits as you write or do you chug the whole thing out then go back to clean things up through revisions?

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

First IWSG of 2017

It's the first Wednesday of January, which means it's IWSG posting and sharing time. It's also the first IWSG of 2017. To get all the details and for the list of other blogs to visit and comment, click here.

With 2016 gone and 2017 here, reflecting on the past is on my brain. My thoughts have taken me back many years to a night when I was a 19 year old college student. That evening was ripe, I was stoked to dress for dancing and visit a couple of clubs with friends.

But such was not meant to be.

That night brought the beginning of a pain that, unfortunately, doesn't show signs of ever leaving, rather ebbing and flowing with my emotions. It could be described with all manner of words, but not exactly captured, no matter the wordsmith phrasing. And it was a screeching hard stop to my life as I knew it.

Since that night, I've learned to start life over. I've had to do it a few times, such as when my marriage fairy tale crash landed in reality and I became a divorced, single mom.

Seems there is a need to begin again, only this time, regarding my writing.

I'm a little scared.

Actually...

A lot scared.

It would be so easy to let go of this writing thing, to enjoy having published myself and being published by a few small publishers...

To just -

STOP.

But the ideas won't stop coming. The characters won't stop speaking. And, well, I love this. Even though I suck at marketing and selling books, I'm a story teller. So here I go, beginning again.

If your writing world is doing great, I pray 2017 continues to bring you good things and prosperity.

If you're anything like me and your writing world more closely resembles a beautiful catastrophe, know you are not alone. I recommend seeing the movie Sing. Seriously. It's a cartoon movie but believe me when I say it has a heart-touching message, quite a few, actually.

I've got a lot of work ahead of me for 2017, but what about you? What are your hopes for 2017? Are you struggling with something? Feel free to use the comments section to vent a little. We all need to get things off of our chests sometimes.

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Last IWSG of 2016

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer - aim for a dozen new people each time. Click here to check out other posts.

Let’s rock the neurotic writing world!

Our Twitter is @TheIWSG and hashtag #IWSG

And we’re revving up IWSG Day to make it more fun and interactive! Every month, there is a question that members can answer in their IWSG Day post.
Question: In terms of your writing career, where do you see yourself five years from now, and what’s your plan to get there?

Five years ago, I was just thrilled to be a part of the blogging world.

Five years from now...?

A friend recently, and unexpectedly, lost his son. I'm feeling a stronger desire to hold my daughter a little more, sit with her, spend time together. Be present.

The doors just closed on a small press where I had one of my stories. There are a lot of people who have been there, done that in regards to that. So not hopping up and down with joy about my prospects when it comes to publishing.

If nothing else, five years from now, I'll still be writing, still sharing my stories in whatever avenue is best for me. 

So, what about you, where do you see yourself in five years?

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

This isn't the typical image for Thanksgiving. You know them:

  • The smiling family gathered together at a table overflowing with food.
  • The running turkey hoping to succeed in NOT being invited for the family dinner on Thanksgiving Day
  • Close up of the beautifully decorated table with the gorgeous cooked turkey in the center, side dishes all around
  • The screaming football fans cheering their football team on as part of Thanksgiving Day tradition

Whether your plans for Thanksgiving include being with family, friends, love ones, or gathering with strangers at the local sports bar, I want to wish each and every one a Happy Thanksgiving!

And...

Sometimes, this world can seem like a dark place, ominous things possibly crouching right around the corner or scary happenings that seem out of our control. I'd like to encourage each of us to take a moment to recognize our own individual flames, our ability to be the light that pushes back the fright.

Let your flame shine!

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

IWSG...Interrupted

Normally, I'm all about IWSG on the first Wednesday of the month. I am...I really am. But I'm off my game big time, some odd life-interruptus causing a bit of mayhem in my dysfunctional version of normalcy.

So, today, I bid you to visit other blogs that have posted about wonderful things, shared good news, or maybe venting out some negativity by clicking here.

As for today, may your NaNoWriMoing be awesome and productive and just as important...may my older brother, Tony, have an AWESOME birthday today!
Me and my silly older brother, Tony, restaurant chillaxing lol!
Have some cake to celebrate!!!
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