I don't like rejection, and Barbara Wright, author of The Pyramid Waltz - which is now available at Bold Strokes Books - is here to share wise words about this thing that chaps my hide (thankfully, not literally)
Take it away, Barbara :-)
Three perfect ways to deal with rejection:
Absolute angry denial: "I didn't want to work with your stupid company ANYWAY!"
Pleas and lamentations: "Please, please, please publish me. I'll clip your dog's toenails! I'll wax your car! I'll wax your bikini area!"
Shrugging it off, pretending to be stone and failing to keep the crying inside: "Meh, so you rejected me. Whatevs. *sniff* I'll just…go to the bathroom…for an hour."
There are other ways, the best being the actual shrug-off, a true state of non-caring, but I think it'd be easier to throw a pool party on the moon. Personally, I like to wrap myself in cookies and whine about how nobody loves me until I get a foot rub. (this sounds like a deja vu moment for me lol!!)
If you're going to pursue a career in writing, you'll have to find a way of dealing with rejection that works for you. Even if you don't choose the traditional publishing route, rejection will find you through reviews or maybe slower sales numbers than you hoped for.
Everyone will tell you it's not personal. People are rejecting your work, not you. To your family and friends, you're still a perfect little snowflake. That doesn't mean rejection can't rock you to the core. You must find a way to embrace it, deal with it, make it your own.
If you want to paste your rejection letters on the wall and let them motivate you, do it. Maybe you can print out those rejections, stuff them in the fireplace, and light them up. Get some hugs, lots of hugs, and gleefully listen to those who love you talk trash about those who rejected you. You don't have to make it personal. They rejected your work; reject theirs.
Most importantly, and I can't stress this enough: Do not let them make you quit. Hear me? DO NOT LET THEM MAKE YOU QUIT. Let me use some exclamation points. Everyone pays attention to exclamation points. DO NOT LET THEM MAKE YOU QUIT!!!!!!!!!
Everyone who might reject your writing is a person, flesh and blood like you and me, random people with random opinions. Acceptance is out there; you just have to have the fortitude to keep looking for it.
DO NOT LET THEM MAKE YOU QUIT!!!!!!!!
I found my acceptance, and now it's out there for people to read, whether they love it or hate it. It's called, The Pyramid Waltz, and it's available now at Bold Strokes Books in e-book and paperback form. That's my end-of-the-guest-blog shameless plug. Smooth, no? (very smooth!)
Barbara Ann Wright writes fantasy and science fiction novels and short stories when not adding to her enormous book collection or ranting on her blog. Her short fiction has appeared twice in Crossed Genres Magazine and once made Tangent Online's recommended reading list. She is a member of Broad Universe and the Outer Alliance and helped create Writer's Ink in Houston. The Pyramid Waltz is her first novel.
You can stalk - erm - visit her at her blog.
The link for The Pyramid Waltz paperback.
From Bold Strokes Books: To most, Princess Katya Nar Umbriel is a rogue and a layabout; she parties, she hunts and she breaks women’s hearts. But when the festival lights go down and the palace slumbers, Katya chases traitors to the crown and protects the kingdom’s greatest secret: the royal Umbriels are part Fiend. When Katya thwarts an attempt to expose the king’s monstrous side, she uncovers a plot to let the Fiends out to play.
Starbride has no interest in being a courtier. Ignoring her mother’s order to snare an influential spouse, she comes to court only to study law. But a flirtatious rake of a princess proves hard to resist, and Starbride is pulled into a world of secrets that leaves little room for honesty or love, a world neither woman may survive.
So, how do YOU deal with rejection?