Wednesday, January 8, 2014

IWSG: I'm Scared

First Wednesday of this month was New Year's Day so understandably the IWSG posts were moved to the next Wednesday of the month.
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Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

And thus, this is where two words have come into play time and time again:

I'm scared.
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I'm scared that if I send this story off to others, they're going to rip it to shreds with their comments and wonder why I tried to write at all.
I'm scared that if I send this rewritten, edited and so-much-loved story to agents and editors, their rejections will validate I'm not a worthwhile author to take a chance on.
I'm scared that when the blog touring dust settles, noone will ever think twice about buying my book so that must be why I have to keep tweeting, blogging, pinning, facebooking all different ways to say "buy my book.

I'm scared.

I've made a lot of decisions based on the presence of those two words as part of my mindset, some of them smartly cautious, others...well, dumb and naive are the kinder words to describe those decisions.

It's time for me to let "I'm scared" go, release myself from fear's hold, and simply let myself breathe the words I love to write, live life and stop fearing the worst.

It's time to hold on to more smiles, more positive thoughts, more confidence in knowing that my writing passion is a flame worth fanning with more of my own publications as Angela Brown and as Rayven Goldchild.

Writing makes me happy and I'm letting go of "I'm scared" so I can be free to share even more of my happiness with the world.

It's time to let it go...

For me...or for you :-)

35 comments:

  1. Yeah, I'm scared too. I get scared when I compare myself to others (which I do all the time). I get scared when I think of the future (because I don't know exactly what I should write when I finish this series). I get scared when I worry about not meeting the expectations of my publisher for sales -- and I get scared when I worry my publisher has already decided it won't have great sales and maybe won't promote it like some other book they have higher hopes for.

    Should I keep going? I have a lot of fears. Letting it go would be great. How do I unclench my fingers from around these fears ....?

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    1. The how part is easier said than done. I started letting go almost a year ago. I saw that I held onto it almost like a shield for some reason, I don't know. But like Uma Thurman couldn't start her journey to Kill Bill until she could master wiggling her big toe, I suppose the same can be useful for those of us who hold to fear with a nearly arthritic grip...got to wiggle the little finger first.

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  2. I'm scared too. Scared I'll never have a book good enough to query, though I'm hoping what I'm working on will be the one. Scared I couldn't write a sequel on deadline if I were lucky enough to get a contract. Your idea to let go of the fear and embrace our writing is a great way to handle the fear.

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    1. Got to let it go to let in the good :-)

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  3. Being scared has been more useful to me than any amount of padding or lucky breaks. It's my catalyst, my bane, and my best teacher.

    Any weakness can be turned into a strength if you use it against itself.

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    1. Interesting point, Maria. I've held so tightly to fear I've not considered it something to use against itself. Though now that I'm letting it go, it feels pretty good.

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  4. Fear is energy - just channel it into action, Angela. you'll still feel scared, but once you start moving forward, it will be all right.

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  5. Take me with you on your "I'm not scared" journey, will ya? It's an ongoing struggle, I think, because we writers delve into emotions so deeply. You've got a great attitude, Angela!

    River – IWSG Co-host
    Seasoned With Words

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  6. I'm right there with you— I'm scared I'll never publish my book, and I'm scared nobody will like it when I do. And letting go is good!

    http://lucindawhitney.com/2014/01/miscellaneous/insecure-writers-support-group/

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  7. What an excellent idea, let go of 'I'm scared'. I think I might have to try that. Good luck to you in this excellent journey.

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  8. This writing stuff is scary, but we have to face fear and be brave. Good luck with letting go of "I'm scared"!

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  9. All writers are scared, even the popular ones. Those who find success learn to push on despite their fears, because in the end they will always be lurking in the background.

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  10. I always get scared before I send off a project. But I press the send button anyway! Even though it doesn't get easier, changing your attitude can make such a difference. Good luck letting go of the fear! :)

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  11. Sometimes fear is a good thing, like you said, it keeps us cautious. But I think we all hide behind it from time to time. Especially when it has to do with something as personal as what we have poured our hearts out to create. It is like putting your child out there for the world to judge. That is scary stuff. But I am glad you are letting it go. It would be more scary not to know.
    Good Luck, Leanne ( http://readfaced.wordpress.com/ )

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  12. I let go of scared in favor of joy a long time ago. I'm glad you have the courage to do the same.

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  13. Man's rejection is God's protection. Let go of your fears and enjoy the journey!

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  14. We're all scared. And writing does make me happy.

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  15. I love writing as well. No matter the fears and worries we strive for success. Move forward and be happy.

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  16. Yay! Time to kick Ms. I. M. Scared in the pants and party. Here's to a great writing year, Angela. Keep smiling.

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  17. Go Angela! That is the spirit to have. :)

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  18. Angela, you have a remarkable smile. We're all scared at one point, letting it go is a relief. Have fun with your writing!

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  19. Nobody wants their work to be ridiculed, mocked or dashed but the only way to get your writing out there is to kick the fear to the curb and do it. Constructive criticism is always very helpful because it makes you see things from someone else's point of view. It can also serve to make you better.
    But saying all that, there are some people who will do whatever it takes to try and drag you down and keep you from achieving your goals. They will knock you hard and fast and it's up to you to 'eat the meat and spit out the bones'. Have a great week, and let this be your year.

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  20. Hi Angela,

    "I'm Scared" is being banned from my lips this year! It doesn't pay and I've missed out on many things throughout the years as a result of this thinking. Here's to a new year filled with new opportunities, scary things faced, and victorious triumphs!

    Cheers,
    Jen

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  21. Kick that "I'm scared" to the curb.

    Though I have to say I love Maria's take on it. Happy writing :)

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  22. Yes, release the fear; just let it waft through you and out. You are a worthy author!

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  23. Thanks, Angela. I do need to release the fear. Love this post!

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  24. Those positive sentiments at the end of your post are wonderful. We must push past the fear. I get scared all the time, but move forward anyway.

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  25. Here's to letting that feeling of fear go - something I'm working hard on myself. I hope we can both kick the fear to the curb!

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  26. Indeed, we cannot allow fear paralyse us. You are working through that and behold, your head is held high, Angela. Very well stated and most upbeat.

    Have a good weekend.

    Gary :)

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  27. Hi Angela! You know, I was thinking about you the other day and then saw your name in the lIWSG list. I'm so glad I did. Definitely kick fear in the butt!

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  28. I'm scared too, Angela! I think it goes with the territory. But I like you're attitude! And I think we'd all do better if we could let go of the scared! :)

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  29. im scared of flying, i could die
    im scared of car crashes, i could die
    i could go on, but those are the biggies and most relevent...

    many agents will not click with your work, that doesnt mean you arent a good writer. and you will always have us to support you thru rejections. and you wont die!

    love you, girl! face your fear with that ammo! kill it, girl!

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  30. Maybe the first step in letting go of the fear is to admit it. Saying "I'm scared" is a good place to start!

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  31. I'm sending you good vibes, Angela. Stay positive and think nothing but awesome thoughts. You're already living the dream, right? And this is all a part of the process. :)

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