Wednesday, April 6, 2016

IWSG and Doubt

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group
  
Purpose: To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

Posting: The first Wednesday of every month is officially Insecure Writer’s Support Group day. Post your thoughts on your own blog. Talk about your doubts and the fears you have conquered. Discuss your struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with your fellow writer - aim for a dozen new people each time

Our Twitter hashtag is #IWSG

The awesome co-hosts for the April 6 posting of the IWSG will be Megan Morgan, Chris Votey, Viola Fury, Christine Rains, Madeline Mora-Summonte, L.G. Keltner, Rachna Chhabria, and Patricia Lynne!

For my post today, I'm trying to NOT let myself give in to the doubts invading the fringes of my mind. I've been keeping them at bay with positive thoughts that patience in this writing game is what will work and that this is a marathon, not a sprint.

Yet I feel like a skilled warrior running uphill like in The Last Samurai movie facing the brutality of a Gatling gun.

To keep from feeling...
Confused
Really stupid
Useless
Skill-less
Hurt
Evidently wrong about this dream
Defeated
I'm trying to force my attention away from the soul-sucking low-to-no sales and pouring myself into another project. And praying helps with my sanity as well.

What do you do to keep your sanity when doubt seeks to overwhelm you?

28 comments:

  1. Here's my latest mantra: I'm a survivor and I will survive (insert the challenge you are going through). Lots of exercise helps too. You've gone through a lot of challenges and are writing and doing fantastic. Never forget that!

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    1. Thanks, Natalie. That's a mantra to keep in mind and use during times like now.

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  2. I had a comment of wisdom for you until I read Natalie's comment. Go with hers. <3

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    1. It might make it onto a sticky as a daily reminder.

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  3. Sometimes I do something else.

    I've found that if I get too many rejections, disapproval, or negative responses, I can get depressed. When that happens I switch gears.

    Maybe a novel doesn't sell but a short story might.

    It never hurts to expand your horizons. You might like the view better.

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    1. Expand my horizons... something to seriously consider.

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  4. I play with my kids. They think I'm a winner no matter what's going on. =)

    Crystal Collier

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  5. Work on something else. They say the more books you have, the more you will sell.
    And when I'm discouraged, I go play my guitar.

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    1. You've got mad skills on the guitar, Alex.

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  6. Sorry about the sales, it's so tough out there! But hang in there, Natalie said it great. =)

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    1. It can be pretty tough, but write on I must.

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  7. Just keep writing and let the rest of it fall into place. That's what I do. Once I was super discouraged about a novel that was really not doing well at all, and a friend of mine said, "Just write the next book." I'd been so stuck on what the other one was doing it was weighing me down with negativity. At some point, we've got to let go of our expectations and just go back in and write the next book.

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    1. Let go of expectations...and just write. I need to add that to what Natalie shared and keep those right in front of me.

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  8. Hang in there Angela; you're published and as Karen says just keep writing and let the rest of it fall into place. Like Alex, I am a musician. I play Viola, thus the name Viola Fury (well, there's a whole backstory to the "Fury" part of it) but Rachmaninoff, who wrote probably the most loved piano concerto ever, wrote that coming off of a totally vilified 1st symphony and a 1st piano concerto and he suffered from severe depression.

    He kept on though and out of his pain, frustration and angst came 2 very stunning works; his 2nd piano concerto in C minor and his 2nd symphony, also in C minor and they are towering masterpieces in the symphonic world.

    People may not always "get" what it is you're trying to do at first blush, but with time, they'll begin to understand. Praying certainly helps, too, Angela and having all these great #IWSG friends around you, how can you possibly fail? You've got the talent, skill, drive. You can do this! Thanks for giving me a chance to stop by and talk to you. Viola Fury, aka Mary <3

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    1. Thank you, Mary. I think I needed this :-)

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  9. It's tougher some days than others. But doing other things helps. I get inspired by a good book or film, or I go out and enjoy a day with my son. :)

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    1. Maybe a little extra time with my kiddo is in order.

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  10. I hope sales improve, Angela. Keep smiling and be kind to yourself.

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    1. Being kind to myself is a challenge since I tend to be very hard on myself :-)

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  11. I'm sorry you are feeling so discouraged. :( I can't think of anything that hasn't already been said but I so love Natalie's mantra. I would stick with that one.

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    1. Thanks, Julie. Working toward more positive.

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  12. Chin up! Just remember that this funk will pass. Keep at it, and good things will happen.

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  13. I feel your despair as well. My sales are practically zero. Even my free book doesn't do as well as I'd expect. Just gotta keep writing and praying. Wouldn't be happy doing anything else. Don't let sales get in the way of your creative self. You'll make it one day. Try to be kinder to yourself. I'll try to take my own advice too *hugs*

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    1. Hugs to you as well, Gwen. Like you, I have to keep plugging at it. I love writing so much.

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  14. Kudos to you for not giving into the doubts that creep up in your mind. Having them is normal and I understand how hard it can be where patience is factored into the equation. The rule of thought that says 'nothing worth having comes easy (or quickly)' might help to keep those doubts at bay. The great thing is you already recognize them and won't let them control you. That's more than a lot of people can say. You are a strong, brave and determined woman.

    Slow and steady wins the race :)

    ~Nicole
    p.s. I listen to music to keep my sanity when feeling overwhelmed with doubts. Sometimes it helps and sometimes it makes things worse but I've learned that it all depends on the genre of music or even the individual tracks themselves that determines whether I can put myself at ease or if I will put myself in a frenzy. I'd recommend playing songs that make you feel like a champion. Chrisette Michele has a lot of good tracks that are uplifting.

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    1. I'll have to check out more music by Chrisette Michele. I've only heard the occasional song here and there on the radio.

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