Thursday, October 6, 2011

Darths Were Girls, Too

I usually do my hype for a  few of the movies breaking out this weekend, however, I'm curious about something. Does it really matter what costume a girl wants to wear for Halloween?  My chipmunk, all of seven years old and innocent as the day is long, is debating being either Darth Vader or Cinderella.

Talk about some differences in THOSE costumes.

But then I got to thinking, Darths were girls too.  Darth Bane's apprentice was Darth Zannah (Rain).  So do I encourage her to go with Cinderella or to briefly embrace the Sith?
She's the bad mamma jamma with the double-bladed lightsaber (source)
What about boys?  Are there costumes that are NOT right for them?

How does this fit in with writing, publishing or TV?  Well, unless you've been hunkered at the computer with no access to the internet - which is possible in many areas - you've probably heard about the LGBT debating that's going on.  There are those who believe that letting a girl dress too much like a boy or a boy dress too much like a girl will cause confusion and lead to an LGBT lifestyle.  My own beliefs aren't in alignment with that thought process but I'm not going to hate on someone who does.

But I am curious...what say you?


  1. Great post.

    I don't believe that dressing a child in the other gender's style will make the child choose a LGBT lifestyle. There are lots of kids who wear clothes made for the other sex and they turn out just fine.

    Whatever costume your girl chooses, I bet she will enjoy.

  2. Wow, that question packs a big punch.

    I'd say it would depend on the age of the child and why a certain costume is appealing to them.

    I doubt at that age they're thinking about their sexual orientation anyway.

  3. @ Angelina - The year before last, my chipmunk decided to be Optimus Prime. I had a few funny looks more smiles than anything but she had a blast.

    @ Maria - I can not speak for any other parent, but right now my chipmunk will see a kissing scene on TV, wrinkle up her face and go "Ewwww!" So, I'm guessing sexual orientation isn't exactly at the top her list. She expresses excitement for Transformers, Princess movies and how many cars she can see that look like the one we have now and the one we had earlier this year.

  4. its the choices of action, not the clothes or costume that make a person. but sometimes clothing can make a statement to be judged by others, unfortunately.

    go girl sith!

  5. Re: "but sometimes clothing can make a statement to be judged by others, unfortunately"

    That seems to be the crux of much of it right there. Thanks for checking out my blog.

  6. It's Halloween :) I'm with Maria, I don't kids are thinking about sexual orientation at such a young age.

    But I will say that we are kidding ourselves if we think the choices we make have no impact on us. I would be more likely to let my girls dress as a jedi than a sexy cat, or my boys dress as a cheerleader than a serial killer.

  7. Angie, I let my chipmunk dress up as a bumble bee when she was 4. Not that big round plump one, but the tiny black unitard with the itty bitty yellow tutu. That's when I fear reared up it's ugly head because she was so...NOT chipmunk-like. She trick-or-treated and had a good time but I've since distanced myself from letting her choose anything that revealing again. I know, paranoia, but man...geez.

  8. My sister was Mr. Spook in Kinder. I say let her be whichever she wants.

  9. Let her go as Vader! That would be cool.
    My only thought - boys should never wear dresses. But everything else seems rather unisex nowadays.

  10. @ Raelyn - Chipmunk is still trying to decide. I was just tickled by how different her costume ideas are :-)

    @ Alex - I won't mind which one she chooses...I am, however, tickled at the thought of her father sweet-talking her into going with Cinderella cuz to him, she IS a princess.

  11. I think it's great that your girl wants to be Darth Vader. :)

  12. She's a rough and tumble little girl, Cynthia. Certainly keeps me on my toes and opens my eyes to so many things.

  13. I'd say the more well-rounded the experiences, the more well-rounded the individual will turn out.

    I was never a girly-girl and I turned out just fine despite choosing to dress like a tramp (and I mean a person without a home who walks the road...)* three halloweens in a row, and my costume included a hilariously oversized plastic cigar and a coffee-ground 5 o'clock shadow.

    *kinda glad I realized I should explain that word before hitting the 'publish your comment' button...

  14. Good point, 1000th.monkey, about the well-roundedness.

    And thanks for that explanation (lol!!!)

  15. It's usually us "adults" who are the ones that make judgments and are horrified. The kids just want to experience the fun of dressing up. I think it's great that she's thought of such diverse costumes, and I'm sure she'll have fun. Personally, I'm a little envious. We don't celebrate Halloween in NZ.

  16. DARTH!!!

    My bf just bought a poster of Darth in a Nixon pose that reads "I Am Not a Sith."

    Thank you so much for coming by the blog!

  17. Hmmm...could these judgements come from our years of living and experience distorting our lenses every which-a-way? Something to consider.

  18. Thanks to you for coming by my blog as well. I really enjoyed your guest post at the dojo, Sophia.

  19. I have three sons and must admit I'd kind of freak if one wore a dress. Not so much because I would care but my husband might suffer a stroke. Girls can wear anything, though. I know, double standards. Go Darth!

  20. Ciara, a certain chipmunk's father claimed his "heart dropped" when she declared wanting to wear a Darth Vader the double-standard is there but some things are just...well, what can you say?

  21. I always preferred boys' clothes as a kid, never wanted to wear dresses. Had nothing to do with sexual orientation - I could just do more fun stuff wearing jeans. Unfortunately, I think if a boy decided dresses were more comfortable and tried wearing them, he'd never hear the end of it.

    As far as Halloween goes - hey, those are costumes. The one time you can be anything.

  22. I don't think it matters what costume. The costume is not going to cause any child to be bent in that direction.

    My daughter is 12 and she loves comics and super heroes. She still likes to dress up at home for fun and comes down with superhero, princess, wizard, and even little red riding hood. She shares my love for theatre, so perhaps that explains it. It is fun and expressive. As a matter of fact, she went today with her father to the Renaissance Faire dressed as a princess complete with gown and hooded cloak.

    She probably won't want to dress up for much longer (teen years will hit soon), but I'm glad she can have some "kid" fun still.

    Sorry my comment is so long.

    Thank you for your comment on Christine Tyler's blog on my interview. Take care!

  23. Your comment, long or short, is always welcome, Dawn.


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